Be an Observer, Not a Judge


Ever prejudge a situation?

Open your mouth

and insert foot?

That’s what Jackie did when she started in on an employee about an unfinished project. She was frustrated and angry, her day wasn’t going right anyway and when he walked in she let him have it.

She was more than a little embarrassed when he pointed out that the project had been on her desk since that morning. In her disarray she hadn’t even seen it!

It’s so much easier when we remember the Concept, “Be and observer, not a judge.” It lets us ask questions rather than make accusations. It eliminates the stories we make up in our heads (which are really what upset us anyway, not what happens).

So to eliminate those ‘Boy was my face red’ situations in your life remember: “Be an observer, not a judge.”


(also published in the ebook “Living the 55 Concepts.” 55 Concepts Book and Audio available at

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